FIRST 3 MEETINGS · QUESTION GUIDE

What to ask, in the right order.

Curated questions for your first 3 meetings — built by counselors who’ve sat through hundreds of arranged-meeting setups. Track each meeting’s signal as you go.

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Meeting 1 — Foundations

Low-stakes get-to-know-basics. Don't push for big answers — listen for how they describe their everyday.

LIFESTYLE

What does a typical Sunday look like for you — from when you wake up until you sleep?

Why this mattersTheir unfiltered weekend tells you what they actually value, not what they want you to think they value.

Who are the three or four people you'd want at our wedding from your side, no matter what?

Why this mattersTells you whose opinions actually count in their life — usually a tighter list than they advertise.

What's the last thing you read, watched, or listened to that stayed with you for a few days?

Why this mattersTheir cultural diet tells you what their inner monologue sounds like.

If you could live in any city in India for the next ten years, which one — and why?

Why this mattersReveals whether they have a 'home base' or are open to building one. Big factor for two-career couples.

Is there something you love doing that nobody at this table — including your parents — knows you love?

Why this mattersSurfaces the parts of them that don't fit the matrimony-profile shape. Often the most honest answer of the meeting.

FAMILY

What does your family eat for dinner together, and who usually cooks?

Why this mattersThe kitchen is where unspoken household roles live. Listen for who they assume is at the stove.

Tell me about the house you grew up in — what was it like in the evenings?

Why this mattersChildhood evenings shape adult homes more than we admit. Listen for what they want to repeat or escape.

COMMUNICATION

When you're stressed, who do you call first?

Why this mattersWhere they go when they're not okay tells you who they truly trust — and where you'd fit in.

What's something that made you laugh out loud in the last week?

Why this mattersHumour signature is one of the few things you can't fake. If your senses of humour clash, you'll feel it forever.

If we did meet again, how would you describe today's conversation to your closest friend tonight?

Why this mattersA gentle mirror question. Watch whether the answer is generous, guarded, or scripted.

CAREER

Walk me through a typical work week — when you start, when you stop, what your evenings look like.

Why this mattersThe actual working hours decide the actual marriage. Get a real picture, not the LinkedIn version.

DECISION

How many introductions like this have you been through, and what made you say yes to a second meeting in the past?

Why this mattersTheir pattern of yes/no reveals their decision-making style — and whether they're tired, hopeful, or rushed.

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What comes after meeting three.

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